{"id":9538,"date":"2024-07-21T18:40:52","date_gmt":"2024-07-21T17:40:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lili-sorum.com\/en\/?p=9538"},"modified":"2024-07-27T17:14:53","modified_gmt":"2024-07-27T16:14:53","slug":"how-to-cut-the-crap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lili-sorum.com\/en\/how-to-cut-the-crap\/","title":{"rendered":"How to cut the crap"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Separate you from what no longer serves you.<\/span><\/h2>\n

Let\u2019s take,for example, a pattern you carry within, which may be rooted in your childhood.<\/p>\n

Allow me to ask you a question: are you still that helpless child?<\/p>\n

Better yet, tell me this: do you know of a child who feels helpless?<\/p>\n

A child believes in himself. He believes in Life.<\/h4>\n

A child perceives Life as limitless.<\/h4>\n

We were born believing everything is possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For children, there is no such thing as \u2018the impossible\u2019.<\/p>\n

When I was a kid, I wanted to have farm animals in an apartment building. My response to my mother, who of course, was shaking her head & enjoying my fantasy imagination as a joke, was: \u2018it is not true that it\u2019s impossible \u2013 just admit you do not want it\u2019\u2019. In my head, it was just a matter of rearranging some furniture (piglets in the bathtub, a horse on the balcony, chickens & hens under the dining table \u2013 and this is only a draft of it all.)<\/p>\n

Did you smile?<\/p>\n

Now, seriously \u2013 if we don\u2019t believe it as possible, it will not be addressed. <\/strong><\/p>\n

A child believes. A child wants to try.<\/strong> Yes, try the things he is interested in HIMSELF, not what his parents would want him to do (for example, to eat the veggies).<\/p>\n

A child perceives himself as almighty & Life as a limitless gift.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the disappointments & bad experiences that transform us and later on in life awaken a sense of helplessness.<\/p>\n

What kind of a child were you? How did your parents &\u00a0people surrounding you behave towards you? Were you encouraged, did they support you or were you ignored and criticized? And, are you still acting like that kid did, TODAY?<\/p>\n

You are an adult. <\/strong><\/p>\n

INDEPENDENT. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Today I can have chickens under my dining table because there is no \u2018mom\u2019 to say I can\u2019t. So, it\u2019s my decision and my choice.<\/p>\n

Everything is our decision and a choice.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n

When we decide it\u2019s over \u2013 it\u2019s over. However, certain changes need time to be realized. I can choose this moment to have 3 hens, but they will not materialize from the thin air \u2013 I would have to go to the farmer.\u00a0Allow me to use this feathery example: D<\/p>\n

Recall the dreams that didn\u2019t come true when you were a child. If you determine that the dreams you had, are in fact something that is still important to you and would make you happy = that is saying you still want this: why don\u2019t you do something about it today? \u00a0Or do you?<\/p>\n

Our parents did the best they could.<\/p>\n

There is no mother in this world, who said: \u2018\u2019Oh, I\u2019m gonna totally suppress my kid, for the fun of it\u2019\u2019. A child can perceive certain educational measures as oppression, but believe me our parents believed it to be the best for us. Today you are not a child. Is it possible you are acting like that same mom or dad or situation has power over you?<\/p>\n

And then the most common answer: \u2018it is difficult.\u2019
\nSo what !!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Is a life full of restrictions easy?? Is holding on to the fear, unaddressed longing, pain, memories and wounds easy? Please be aware this is a decision you make. Memory is a thought that rotates in our minds<\/strong>. I\u2019m not particularly inclined to reminisce about chemistry lessons or visits to the dentist \u2026 and yes, it is much alike those memories we harbor. You choose what you think and what you do about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Where do you channel your energy and why? Where does your focus lie?<\/strong>
\nSo, what to do? How to cut the crap? What to do when things come up, when we are reminded of a painful experience, when we miss someone etc \u2026<\/p>\n

When you become aware of a memory or a thought \u2013 ask yourself: is it welcomed?<\/em> No? In that case, simply say: \u2018\u2019Dear thought, nice of you to drop by (again), I hope you\u2019re well. Now, I want to wave goodbye to you and wish you a happy journey.\u2019\u2019 Then force yourself to think something else. Read a book, watch a movie, if nothing else works.<\/p>\n

YOU and only You are the master of your Life.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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Everything is our decision and a choice.<\/strong><\/h4>\n

Be like a child. Believe in magic & fairytales<\/h4>\n

BUT don\u2019t fall for phony promises and HAPPINESS will happen.<\/h4>\n

With Love, MiTaKuYe oYaSiN<\/p>\n

LiLi SoRuM<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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